Are you a cook?
Have you ever found yourself browsing recipes endlessly for something interesting to make?
Maybe you like the pictures. Maybe you like the thought of putting a beautiful meal on the table for your family. Maybe you’re searching for the perfect meal to make for that special dinner, but can never find just the right thing.
Whatever your reason is for continuing your search for the perfect recipe, what good is all that browsing if you never cook the meal?
I’m guilty of gathering recipes but never going the extra step to make them come to life. I know lots of recipes. I can see lots of great meals landing on my table. I can hear the subtle mmmmm as my friends and family take to tasting. But, it’s not real. It’s imagined.
Maybe it’s not recipes that you’re consuming. Maybe it’s books on starting a business or how to play guitar or how to fly fish or how to run a marathon. Reading is not running. Finding is not fishing. Books are not business. Perusing is not playing.
Go create what you’ve been consuming.
That’ll be $3.85, would you like to leave a tip for your server today?
My server stood smiling at me. Eyes locked on the pen and receipt they just handed me to sign. I waved the pen over the tip line, buying an extra second as I thought about whether or not to tip.
There’s a line for a tip, does that mean there’s an expectation to tip? They just grabbed my bagel and handed me a cup to fill my coffee up myself. What will the server think if I don’t tip? What if that’s how they make money in this gig? I don’t want to be the only guy who doesn’t tip.
What is a tip anyway?
From my vantage point a tip, or gratuity, is money offered for the value added to the item being purchased. From the server’s vantage point, it’s incentive to provide good service. It’s an exchange of value. The sticking point is that I as the purchaser have the opportunity to determine what that value is in balance with social norms.
Don’t tip. You’re rude.
Tip too little. You’re cheap and offensive.
Tip too much. You’re generous, excessive or maybe you’ve made a mistake.
Tip what’s customary. You’re safe, but come on, couldn’t you have added a little more?
Tipping is not only an exchange of value, but it’s also a statement. It’s in this statement that lies a tension. A tension to uphold or deny what you believe about yourself and what you want others to believe about you. It doesn’t seem fair or logical to the server, that my propensity to tip is not about their service, but has more to do with what I want them to think about me. Maybe it’s just me.
Does your morning routine at the office consists of first getting coffee and second getting to work? Do you arrive at your desk, put your bag down, then head to fill up your coffee cup first thing?
Try reversing that order. First do something meaningful and then second get your coffee. Earn that cup of joe. Repeat.
Getting straight to work signals that you mean business to your brain.
Where are you?
What are you feeling?
What are you thinking?
What are you thinking about doing?
What are you doing?
Performance = Motivation * Ability * Environment