Framework: Small Talk

I found this article on effortlessgent.com to be particularly useful.  The below framework is a great takeaway of us introverts.

Start a Conversation (ARE)

Anchor. Notice and observe a thread of connection and comment on it.

Reveal. Mention something about yourself that builds on your original statement.

Encourage. Finally, tee up a question that relates to the topic to push the conversation forward!

Continue the Conversation (FORM)

Family. Ask about their family and then tell them about yours. Ex. Do you have a big family? Did you grow up in the area?

Occupation. Ask them about their job and their livelihood. Talk about how your jobs compare or differ. How do you spend your time during the week? What’s your favorite part about doing X or working at Y company?

Recreation. Ask what they like to do on the weekends. Sports, hobbies, volunteer work, anything. If you find something in common, jump on it! Do you enjoy Hiking/running? Do you find it hard to find time for it?

Motivation. Ask them what their passions. This is a powerful way to find out what they value. What do you absolutely love doing, both at work and outside of it?